Supporting Young Children Through the Holidays

Written By Jennifer Beeson

A simple, grounded guide for home

By Waldorf School of the Peninsula

The holiday season often brings a mix of excitement and disruption for young children. Later bedtimes, travel, guests, and a faster pace can all be thrilling, but they can also lead to overstimulation, big feelings, and more frequent meltdowns. This is completely normal.

With a little intention, families can help children stay regulated and supported while still enjoying the richness of the season.

Anchor the Rhythm

Children thrive on rhythm, even when schedules shift. During the holidays, aim to preserve the essential structure of the day—especially around sleeping and eating—so your child has familiar touchstones to return to.

At mealtimes, keep the rituals that matter most:

  • A blessing or moment of gratitude

  • Lighting a candle

  • Waiting until everyone is served before beginning

  • Asking to be excused

  • Helping clear dishes

These small, repeated gestures provide calm and continuity, even in new settings.

At bedtime, slow the pace as the evening unfolds:

  • Dim the lights

  • Speak more softly

  • Keep the same order of events (for example: brush teeth, wash face, pajamas, story, lights out)

Even if bedtime happens later than usual, maintaining the sequence helps signal safety and rest.

Notice Overstimulation Early

During busy days, children often show us they’re overwhelmed before a meltdown happens. Common signs include:

  • Whining or increased demands for attention

  • Clumsiness or frenetic movement

  • A louder voice or difficulty settling

When you notice these cues, pause and ground yourself first. Then approach your child with a calm presence—gentle touch, a steady voice—and guide them to a quieter space. Offering a simple centering activity can help reset their nervous system:

  • A cozy nook with pillows

  • A favorite stuffed animal

  • Mess-free drawing or quiet play

If you’re traveling or visiting others, consider packing a small “calming kit” with a few familiar items your child can rely on anywhere.

Invite Meaningful Participation

One of the most supportive things we can offer children during busy times is belonging. Simple, low-stress ways to involve them in holiday preparations build confidence and connection—and often make the days smoother for everyone.

  • Wrapping gifts? Invite your child to draw a picture to include with each present.

  • Baking? Let them add pre-measured ingredients or help stir.

  • Cleaning? Offer a small broom and dustpan so they can work alongside you.

These shared moments don’t need to be elaborate. They simply let children feel included, capable, and connected.

For Families on the Go

If travel is part of your holiday plans, you may find Megan Lin’s Screen-Free Travel Activities guide helpful. It links to ideas designed to support focus, imagination, and calm while away from home.

Special thanks to Megan Lin, WSP Bluebell Class Teacher, for sharing these ideas and inspiring this post!

More Tips from Dr. Deborah MacNamara:

Image courtesy of Dr. Deborah MacNamara.

Jennifer Beeson
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